Jasper Mangel: Absolutely think about who ever your spouse slept with you are now sleeping with them as well. If you ok it that just lets him or her no that if it happens again you are forgiving and wont do a damn thing about it but take it.
Trena Berum: If a person wants to cheat they should not be with one person. Why hurt people. no cheater should be married
Lashawn Zabarkes: once a cheater always a cheater.and even if you can try and make it work it'll never work.once the cheater goes out with a friend or even by it self you'll always think its cheating on.you'll never get over it because you'll never fore get. but good luck!!!
Lindsey Zanardi: i do not think cheating is automatic, if u have a good spouse that considers your feeling..then it is not ....on the other hand if yr spouse does not care how u feel off course he will cheat
Elaina Adolfson: No idea or experience.
Barton Morfee: Out of state visitations for florida atleast .. ar! e.. 6 weeks in the summer, every other holiday, including spring break (when they are in school)
Valentine Michaud: It should be, that is the ultimate betrayal from the person who is supposed to love and honor you forever.
Houston Venezia: yes, it should be. once cheating happens in a marriage it ruins the trust and breaks a bond. I think it should be over becasue it will never go away and will always cause major problems. good luck!
Ester Bryand: well, you won't get the payments until the person is retired............ask your state
Elden Dedon: Most of the time, yes. There are clear times when that is not an automatic end because some couples work it out and, sometimes that is a reason they renew their wedding vows. There are definitely other reasons for renewing, though. My ex-roommates renewed their vows on their Golden Anniversary. Pretty romantic, huh?!!!?
Soraya Coodey: If my husband cheated on me, I would have to say he didn't Love me. I! would always be wondering if he was thinking of the other per! son when he made love to me . So I would say a very big yes. If you love someone enough to marry them. You should be faithful to them. No matter how much you may think forgiveness would happen. It just isn't in our human nature to do so. Ben there. It just hurts to much. I was the one cheated on by an ex.
Donella Vasta: My husband and I discussed it: it would be in our marriage, yes. But for other people, there are other options such as counseling and working through it, especially if there are young children involved.Not everything is black & white. It all depends on what may have caused the affair (happily married people don't cheat) and what can be done to change things.
Simona Bulwinkle: It should be. If someone takes the other individual back they'll find out the cheater will probably do it again. It's better to end the marriage and move on.
Foster Padgette: Depends why????with whom???There is no one answer to this . . .each case is to it's own but wi! ll definately put that spouse's "honesty & integrity" in a serious questionable doubt.Plus how hard will it be to forgive (if there is an honest "I'm sorry and will never do it again") in conjunction with the 1st two questions above)....Show more
Bernadette Roel: payments are from a qualified domestic relations order involving partners retirement benefits? will it take a few weeks or months or longer?
Sharee Doak: Well yes in a sense, but depending on how strong the two people in the marriage are, and how committed they are, they may be able to recover from it, as long as it NEVER happens again, and the marriage changes for the better as a result
Delphine Cajka: ask a lawyer
Bryant Pillitteri: Absolutely.
Arnoldo Budzynski: It depends on the people involved. For me, yes, it's the end.
Arden Strachn: I think it depends on the marriage. In my marriage, it would be the end. Mr. 8 Ball agrees.
Joey Mekeel: Probably not.
Britta! nie Zakutney: Yes. Because your partner might forgive, but they will ne! ver forget and that will cause trust issues. And no relationship works if there is no trust.
Barrett Zheng: Usually part of Christmas/Winter break - but not the whole thing. Maybe the weekend after Thanksgiving. Usually one of the weeks the schools are closed in the Spring and a month over the summer.
Jana Sakasegawa: You may argue you may even separateBut if you love someone you don't fall out of it So no i would,nt have her back
William Vickerman: It is, but don't hold your breath. It really depends on how/why you broke up.
Galen Gowers: The relationship will be shattered forever, Olive. And no amount of glue will put it back the way it was before.
Alphonso Brake: It was for me. In my case - I made the right decision.
Caleb Chapman: Not necessarily, it depends on the true base of the relationship.
Norris Rosener: for me hell yeah. i would not want to live with someone that cheated on me. the fear of wondering if shes out with he! r friends or if shes out with some guy. or if hses REALLY on a business trip. if i do get married. i wont be looking for drama. or insecurity. i would want the exact opposite.
Eleni Mccier: how old are the kids????my ex lives in the same state and during the summer my 13 yr old son spends the summer with him and his parentshe has done this from when he was young...Show more
Marya Fehn: Most times, yes....it's hard to ever, ever get over.
Chi Alfero: one son - 5 years old
Chauncey Williama: and if you get back with her whats to keep her from falling out again???
Ulrike Hert: No the trust between was broken when you separated and it will never be totally restored.98% of those trying a second time fail - why waste that time?
Gaynell Pizzaro: She may have been your girlfriend but she was never in love with you. If she had been she still would be.
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Zulema Baccam: No, it shouldn't be. It's a huge betrayal that needs a! lot of healing, but it should not automatically mean that you throw aw! ay a whole marriage, especially if there are kids involved.
Mauro Cowee: 2 weeks in summer, is the standard average. However, in my state it's the law. and one can get a judge really mad if the law isn't followed. Most states have guidelines on visitation for non-custodial parents.My ex know's better than to side step the law on visitation cause she know's i'll drag her in front of a judge so fast it will make her head spin and all non-custodial parents ought to do this everytime a custodial parent tries to deviate from the set guidelines....Show more
Dallas Bartolini: That is up to the cheated on spouse, but usually yes it is.
Anton Waln: NO WAY. Haven't you people ever heard of forgiveness?
Caroyln Ebach: 3 things about this!I don't chase cheeze, when I've got steak at home(so make sure you're steak and not a coldcut)Winners don't cheat, & cheaters don't win!so why stay married to a looser!I left after about the 4-5th time (had no forgiveness lef! t in me)...Show more
Emilie Santmyer: Well at that point the vowes that were taken have been broken. At that point you are no more than a couple that are living together without trust.
Hal Rouse: What paperwork did you send to the agencies that handle his retirement benefits? If you don't send it, it's never going to happen.
Barton Morfee: # of weeks in the summer, holidays, other visitation timeI would just like to get an idea of what other families do in this situation
Shaquita Wernicki: Yes, that happened to me. I think it was worth it.
Gregory Dilg: First of all, cheating isn't allowed in a marriage, because of the devotion and preservation of its true meaning: monogamy. If you desire 'fooling around', don't get married. If your partner fools around, that's another matter. That is what marriage councilors are for. My wife and I are true, honest, and integrated...what a lot of people lack nowadays, in my opinion. If couples were more like ! us, divorce rates would be 0% and everyone would be happy. Sounds like ! a dream world? Maybe, but that's how we live. Honesty, integrity, devotion, and a good hold of sexual fidelities. And, most importantly, COMMUNICATION!...Show more
Whitley Leopold: this is a question for your attorney. don't pay much attention to legal advice you may get in here :):):):)
Mauro Cowee: Call the phone # of where those payments are to come from.You should have some sort of case # to give them.Someone there should be able to give you some idea.
Leann Villalta: I would move on.
Lucien Hellerman: YESSUM! For me it is the end, you break the trust we had or once had then it is over! I would never look back either and just move forward. It could never be fixed or forgiven to me, no therapist or therapy needs to tell me how to handle it or try! Kids or not I know that in my heart and soul taking the kids if any out of the house would be the best thing for them in the long run..Because I would not be happy and I would be the one who fights dail! y and struggle trying to be the happy housewife...NO THANKS...Show more
Katheryn Skrobacki: Often it is not. Marriage is a much bigger commitment than any other relationship and it isn't so easy to just end it. Many couples choose to work it out. It may take years to forgive and be trusting again, but it's possible if the person is truly remorseful and both people want to stay in the relationship.If my husband cheated once and he was not in love with her and he was willing to go to therapy and atone for what he had done (and never see that woman again even if it meant moving to another state), then I might stay in the marriage....Show more
Barton Sease: i would say so, b/c IMO i think once a cheater always a cheater, and yes they tend to do it over and over, which usually results into a divorce!
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